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Telling People What To Do

One of the things that I haven't had to do a lot of in my life is tell other people what to do.  I tend to be trusting enough of people that I think that they would know what to do.  I also don't think that I have any right to tell anyone what to do unless it is my job specifically to do so.

I had a few opportunities to do this when I worked in retail, and found it relatively easy.  It was my job to tell people where to go and what to do the times I was tasked to do so.  Didn't matter if I was a friend of the person, things needed to get done and that was my job to have people do what they needed to do.

The next time I ever had to really do this was during one of my final (technical) college classes where we were split off into groups and the person in charge was to rotate around each week or so.  This worked for a time until I started noticing that things weren't going as well as they should.  I didn't tell anyone exactly what they were going to do, but I took charge of the project to make sure that things were getting done and that the project itself was coming together the way it should have.

That worked out well as when it came down to the final presentation (the only presentation to the entire class) the teachers boss was there and even though our group was to go on last he had us go first as his boss was only going to be there for a short time.  With what we had originally planned to what we got to, the teacher never thought we'd get anywhere near what we planned on.  So, hey, thumbs up for that experience too.

In my current position, I am still a junior level while everyone else is above that.  Now we only have one of each position type and there is only 3 of us and my boss.  I tend to do my own thing, but there are times when things come up that questions that may not relate to my actual job that I'm looked to for answers.  These are the situations that I find the hardest.

I don't want to step on people's toes.  They are all smart and I don't want to ever come off thinking that I am telling them what to do.  It's these situations that make me very anxious because I don't want to ever come off like I know more.  There are times that I do, and that's just because of experience, but I still do my best not to.  It may be holding me back in some respects.  But I never want to step on anyone's toes.

This is a switch that because of my position I do my best to not turn on.  I know it's there if I ever get the time to turn it on.  But I do my best to try not to.  It's a weird thing to try and not turn on, but I know most people don't like being told what to do.  And if you think you don't, trust me you do.  I'm telling you so!

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