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Brutally Honest

I try to be an honest person.  At least I'm not going to lie to someone.  If someone asks a vague question of me, I may "duck" it by giving a vague answer.  But most of the time if you ask me a very direct question, I'll give you a honest answer.

I also expect that of people that I know.  In fact, I would expect them to tell me more than most people would think that I would want to know.  If you don't like me, then tell me.  It might suck when you first say it, but it keeps any unknown from being there.  It lets both of us not waste our time.  Simple concept.

I had someone tell me not to like them one time.  Actually didn't even hurt or anything like that, but allowed me to know what things were and we could then just be friends.  It sounds harsh, but it really isn't.  If everyone was honest from day one then there would be less hurt feelings.

Ok, maybe not less hurt feelings, but the level of hurt would be much lower.  Could you just imagine if you walk about to someone at a bar and the first thing they said was don't even bother?  It might suck at that moment, but you didn't waste any of their time our your time.  You both can go on your way and that's that.

I do my best to take everyone's feelings in to account and doing what I say is extremely hard for me.  Maybe I just want people to tell me what they think of me before I waste my emotional stability on them.  I know I'd probably be in a lot better mental shape now if they had. 

And don't even get me going on people that use someone else to tell people how they feel about them.  If you don't have enough respect for the person to tell them to their face, then you're a horrible person.  Just do it.  You may not want to hurt the person's feeling, but it's better to say it yourself then have someone else do it for you.  They'll respect you more even if you may hurt them and things can heal much quicker that way.

The old saying is, "treat people how you want to be treated".  Maybe I should be more brutally honest.  More forthcoming in what I feel.  I'm trying.  And that's all I can really do.

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