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How Many Friends Can You Make In Three Years?

I moved down to where I am almost three and a half years ago.  First time living on my own, which is pathetic for how old I was when I finally moved out, but I was at least prepared for everything.

The biggest problem that I've had is more on the social aspect of living on my own.  I moved to an area where I had no friends.  Not that I was so far away from my friends that I'd never see them again, but the distance makes it so the weekends are the only option that I get.  The one thing anyone would expect within a three plus time period is to make some new friends that are local.  Yea, didn't happen.

I'd consider the people that I work with friends, but like normal people they have busy lives that don't afford much time for me to do stuff with them.  I've been told that you just got to put yourself out there to make friends.  No shit.  the things is, I'm a quiet person.  Some would say shy.  I'd say too shy.

A lot of people make friends through other people.  I have no one down here.  When you're quiet, you don't just magically become a social butterfly.  There is no cocoon that I'm going to emerge from.  I am who I am.  I'm fine with that. 

I've also been told that it's fine to spend time by yourself when you're not at work.  those people don't understand that the time alone outside of work is basically all my time outside of work.  People are social beings, but I got left out of that group apparently.

The biggest problem in the situation is the one behind the keyboard.  I know that.  The hard part is that it's hard to help yourself when you are the problem itself.  A little help would be nice, but I know I'm on my own.  It's been something I've known even before I ended up moving down here.  I expected it.  I prepared for it.  But no matter how much I prepared it still doesn't change the fact that it sucks.

Will things magically change for me?  If it's up to me, probably not.  I try.  I know I try.  I don't just sit here typing away expecting a new friend to magically show up at my door..........nope didn't happen (damn).  But as you get older it is naturally harder to make new friends.  It's just too bad that I was never good at making friends in the first place.  Good thing it wasn't a graded subject in any of the schooling I've done.

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